The Mixed Messages of Culture and Motherhood

I remember the moment so well, when an older woman saw in me who she was once herself. Three years ago I was struggling to adapt to life as a mother of three. I recognize now that I was most likely depressed but at the time, all I recognized was that I was a mess. An exhausted, unshowered, stressed out disaster. After several days indoors I forced myself to take my children on a short walk around our neighborhood. I coaxed my 6 year old away from the millionth episode of whichever … [Read more...]

The Strength of a Mother

The fever broke in the night. She awoke, her wet hair clinging to her face in strings. I rolled her over, patted and shusshed. I'd hoped we'd spend today as we usually do. Tending to her baby dolls. Reading her favorite books. Making a chalk-drawn tulip garden on the sidewalk. Instead we spent it in the space between sick and all better. Recovering. We'd spent the weekend on an impromptu family getaway. We'd had fun, caught the ice cream that dripped from chins when the sun warmed it. … [Read more...]